I’ll be honest. But I’ll only list a few important attributes a man needs in a woman:
- Good health
- Same religion
- Good heart
- Good family
Is That All?
No that isn’t all. There are many more. Yet every man has different preferences and priorities.
How Do I Keep Up With It?
You really don’t have to.
What you should do depends on your current situation: are you still looking for a man, or you’re already in a relationship with a man?
If You’re Still Looking…
There are “only” three things to do:
- For those attributes you’re already good at, keep it up! For example, if you’re a good listener (yep, a rarity among women), see if your crush appreciates it.
- For those attributes you’re not so good at, make effort to improve at least some of it, gradually.
- For those attributes you’re terrible at, you’ll need to fix it. For example, if you’re rude and mean to (some) people, it’s time to learn how to be polite and compassionate.
While I said “only”, it’s actually a lifetime work. But you need to start now.
If You’re Already In A Relationship…
It’s actually easier, as you just need to ask him. He’ll need to be honest. He may try to be sweet and say “you’re already perfect” and if you’re content with it then it’s fine. But in a healthy relationship it’s better to understand each other’s expectations. You may not fulfill every expectation he has (it’s practically impossible for that), and he also may not fulfill every expectation you have (which is even beyond impossible, ha!)
There is always a reason to improve yourself.
And in the unfortunate case if you later break up with him, you’ll become a better person.
I Feel Ugly, What Choices Do I Have?
Improve your health and your attitude, be a fun and warm person.
The reason is there are several (actually many!) traits men want from women, looks is only one factor.
Other than inner beauty (attitude), health is probably most overlooked. Not smoking, not drinking alcohol, and a healthy habit of exercise and hygiene care is a plus that will be appreciated by him and his family. You’re right that (too much) make up is not good, it can even be bad for your skin’s health.
Being more intelligent is another way. But being intelligent and nice at the same time, that takes practice and sincerity. And that makes a woman more attractive than other not-so-intelligent and not-so-nice women, regardless of looks.
There’s no need to deny that attractive women do have more choices in attracting men, even the simple act of them being there can attract men. Accept that fact and realize that unattractive women still have choices too.